Wow, it's amazing how fast one year can go. I remember dreaming about my wedding day for so long and now we are celebrating our one year anniversary! The dress I would wear, the emotions I would feel when I first see my dad, the look on my soon-to-be husband's face as I walked down the aisle. I would relive that day in heart beat. What I've discovered though is that the journey is just as amazing.
Jonnie + Garrett might be one of the coolest/ laid back couples out there. Chris and I weren't sure about the extent of the hike we would be going on and the exact vision for the shoot but dang, they blew it out of the park. It was a dream come true to wear my dress again, get my hair done, and take beautiful photos with my love and can you believe that bouquet?!
Photos: Jonnie + Garrett
Hair: Shelley Bahan | Beauty Bar Boutique Salon
Flowers: Stems From Love
Dress: Danae by Maggie Sottero
A few things I've learned this year.
1. Not everyone is an expert, no matter how old they are.
It's quite overwhelming to be engaged and seek the help of people around you to guide you in the right direction. I remember feeling defeated about marriage before it ever began because a lifetime with the same person seemed impossible. I've learned to trust myself and what God has in store for me. Life will always be hard with whomever you are with or whatever you are doing. Chris and I come from very different upbringings but we were open and honest since the beginning. This has allowed us to be mindful of each other in situations even if we don't understand.
2. I robbed myself of the new wedding bliss.
Because I listened to other couples and feared what if I make the same mistakes my parents did, I told myself to not expect anything from my husband. I hadn't realized how this would effect me in the beginning. I was cautious and felt like I wasn't allowed to be overly happy because it's only temporary. It sounds crazy I know, but I was trying to protect myself in the only way I knew how. What I found out was that I married an amazing guy, duh! I would be surprised when he did the littlest things and hallelujah, he really was serious when he said he would do all the cooking. I cook maybe once a week which is for the better let me tell ya.
3. Your spouse can show you love in many ways.
Learning how my husband loves me allows me to never question if he's thinking of me or not. Sometimes it's easy to get caught up in thinking physical gifts or certain words are the only things that show love but that's silly. Look for the little things your spouse does to care for you or small tasks done throughout the week.
4. Friendships outside of marriage is work.
I knew in the beginning it was a challenge since I was one of the few not married yet. I'd have to plan weeks in advance and even then it could still be up in the air but be intentional with your friendships and make them meaningful. It's better to have good friends surround you through marriage because we all need someone to lift us up at times and making time for yourself is important.
5. You make the rules.
I actually quite love when someone doesn't agree with me on how something should go because it's not "normal". Marriage can be just the way you want it to be. We are having the time of our lives being silly together, having spontaneous nights out, last minute trips to our favorite city, or late night cravings. Whatever makes your marriage unique and adventurous, go for it.